Don’t we all need some BDSM in our sex life?

What started off as an explanation of 50 different RGB codes turned into somewhat of a phenomenon of whips and chains. Though we aren’t sure how that happened, we do believe that a little BDSM is a very healthy addition to everyone’s sex life. With our recent Femdom and Maledom scenes in mind, we bring you a few tips on how to have fun with that erotic toolbox you keep in your closet. We also guarantee that despite being tongue-in-cheek, the overall quality of this text is much better than that book/movie we dare not mention here – an actual site about erotica.

1.       It’s all a game – and that means rules

We hurt the ones we love, but it’s best if they agree with it, first. But don’t go too hard and agree on what to (not) do beforehand. You shouldn’t forget that you may be sharing a meal and/ or housekeeping duties with this person later, so an embarrassing scream of “Oh fuck, stop, you’re hurting me” might mean trouble. Just because you’re in charge and the other one is at your mercy, it doesn’t mean you get to do anything you want. In fact, we’ll just quote Spiderman’s wise uncle Ben: “With great power comes great responsibility.”

2.       Tied up in the moment

Imagine tying her to the bed so that she can’t move. You have free reign to do whatever you want. What do you do? If your answer is “open up a beer and go watch football”, then it’s back to the drawing board for you. Come on, it’s a whole world of possibilities! Be creative, be gentle, be rough, use toys. Again, see our videos for reference. Just make sure that no one gets too uncomfortable and the blood flow is maintained. Also, do not leave the other person alone. Ever.

3.       Whip it

We didn’t mean whipped cream (although… why the hell not?), but rather hitting one of your favorite areas of your partner’s body repeatedly. Sounds like fun, right? You can use the good old hand, a whip, or a ruler. We’re all bad girls and bad boys, so we all deserve it. Just don’t go too hard (how about having a safe word?). You also shouldn’t choose the fact that someone forgot about the anniversary as a reason for a playful spanking. Whips rarely fix relationship crises.

4.       Wax on, wax off

Pouring hot wax all over your partner may indeed be a great source of additional erotic tension (unless it has to do with depilation). In a way, you are playing with fire, so the usual safety standards apply. As much as we want you to play, RealityLovers can’t be held responsible for you torching your house. To get the blood pumping in the right way, make sure the wax isn’t too hot – the higher you hold the candle, the cooler the wax – and avoid the most sensitive areas, unless you are explicitly asked. And clean up before you really have at it.

Any reason not to play along? We encourage you to at least bring it up with your partner, and as mentioned, draw some inspiration from RealityLovers scenes.

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